From sharing selfies to sliding into DMs—how to set healthy social media boundaries.

We love it, we hate it, we can’t escape it: social media is the third wheel in almost every modern relationship. It’s where we share memories, laugh at memes, and, let’s be real, occasionally doom-scroll until 2 a.m.

But here’s the tricky part: what happens when likes, follows, and late-night DMs start messing with your love life? Where exactly is the line between “just scrolling” and “this feels sketchy”?

Let’s break it down.

💔 When Social Media Gets Messy

• The Oversharer: Your partner documents everything… including your arguments.
• The DM Dabbler: “It’s just a message, no big deal.” (Yes, it is. 🙃)
• The Silent Scroller: Never likes your posts but somehow manages to comment on everyone else’s.
• The Privacy Phantom: Keeps you out of their online life completely—no tags, no posts, nada.

Sound familiar? Social media doesn’t cause problems on its own, but it does magnify whatever’s already happening in your relationship.

✅ Dr. Lily’s Rules for Social Media Sanity

1. Define What’s “Shady” for You

What feels like betrayal to one couple might feel harmless to another. Sliding into an ex’s DMs, following thirst-trap accounts, posting cryptic captions—these are all gray areas. Talk it out and set your own boundaries.

2. Don’t Play the Comparison Game

Remember: social media is everyone’s highlight reel. Comparing your relationship to influencers’ curated couple goals is a recipe for disappointment. Focus on your reality, not someone else’s filters.

3. Share, But Don’t Overshare

Posting a cute selfie together? Love it. Posting every fight? 🚩 Maybe not. Protect the intimacy of your relationship by keeping some things just between you two.

4. Transparency > Snooping

If you feel the need to constantly check your partner’s phone or scroll their followers list, that’s a trust issue—not a social media issue. Build honesty and openness instead of detective skills.

5. Schedule “No-Phone” Time

It’s hard to feel connected when both of you are deep in TikTok rabbit holes. Create tech-free zones: dinner, date nights, or even 30 minutes before bed. You’ll be amazed at how much closer you feel.

🧠 Dr. Lovegood’s Challenge of the Month

Sit down with your partner and ask each other:

• “What online behaviors make you feel respected?”
• “What crosses the line for you?”
• “What do we want our digital footprint as a couple to look like?”

You don’t need to share passwords or post every date night—but you do need to know what makes each other feel secure online.

💌 Final Thoughts from Dr. Lily Lovegood

Social media isn’t the enemy—it’s a tool. Used right, it can actually bring you closer (hello, couple TikToks!). But without boundaries, it can also create cracks in your foundation.

At the end of the day, the likes, follows, and filters don’t matter nearly as much as how you show up offline.

So, next time you’re tempted to scroll, maybe put the phone down, look your partner in the eye, and say:

“Want to make our own highlight reel tonight?” 😉